tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700045582275981017.post1063139446187842836..comments2023-10-08T07:13:48.862-07:00Comments on Righteous Black Chic: married forever?Sum Kinda Wonderful...http://www.blogger.com/profile/15404348719506527251noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700045582275981017.post-10187837594146304002009-06-10T10:02:21.926-07:002009-06-10T10:02:21.926-07:00Wow, that was like a "Dear Abby"...thank...Wow, that was like a "Dear Abby"...thank you for taking the time to answer me so conscientiously...I'm bringing all my troubles to you for feedback ;-)<br /><br />In regards to me actually dating, I only want to, but aren't really. I don't seem to meet people. Those two that I have met in the past year didn't have much to offer or keep me calling...and I do think that this (as in dating) is something that I need in my life as I was heavily influenced by the Christian tradition in my most formative years and never had the oppurtunity to date pre-marriage and get to experience other people full-ly. In fact, he (my husband) was my friend first-we never "dated" per se. At this time, I have only now come to realize that I don't really want a forever love right now. For the past year, I did. I shy away from anything that feels like bondage now--but I am also very domestic and like to have people to care for--I think right now I just want infatuation and/or even someone to just go out with and cuddle up and watch a movie with. Kinda like the iko (when I need him), 'cause truth is for the majority of the year, I am just waaaay to busy. <br /><br />So, what I am taking from your post is to challenge myself to think outside of this box (further). I consider myself liberal and someone who typically does think outside the box and dance to the beat of my own drum, AND I study cultures and its influence on psychological processes...so one would think it might be easy for me to do so---but it really isn't. It's like when you cook in the house and can't smell it, but you would if you go out for a minute and come back in. I need to get out the house and go back in to decipher reality from social influence. This may mean I hold to what I have learned as well as it may mean that I embrace some new ideals as it pertains to romance. Nonetheless, my decision will not be limited to the one pond I swim in; meaning I will educate myself further and embrace what I embrace. Thanks for further inspiring those ideals ;-)<br /><br />....hmmmm, what should you talk about next??????.....well,.... I have this problem with my big toe...Haha!---j/k...I will let you know as I process this. <br /><br />Thanks!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com